No one can love your body like you can
There is no reason for anyone to hate their body. The fact is that some people do. Bodies are born. They are vessels which carry our sense of being, and by which we display ourselves, or our personalities. Human beings created societies around these bodies, and then began to allow the societal construct or idea itself, to define how we saw each other, by putting us into boxes.
The idea that people gravitate towards people who are like them is built on this societal construct where we reject what is not like us. The fact is, regardless of what our bodies look like, we are now defined by it in this larger idea of society, and as such, begin to rank. We do not choose the body we are born into, but we choose how we treat it, and we choose how to love it.
Which is better over which is worse. This idea is the core of the beauty industry; an industry built up on the notions that people prefer to look one way over another. With the Internet and globalisation, now the ideas of beauty are more than ever becoming limited to one or two particular types of people.
This is why humans starve themselves. This is why people bleach their skin. This is why we fail to tell our children that no one will judge them without knowing them.
The world judges the little black boy coming from Laventille before he even opens his mouth. The world judges him by his body first, then his clothes, his body language. And this judgement or boxing of his character, is what tells people how to interact with him. Should we have reason to fear or celebrate this child?
Your body—arms, legs, stomach, face, vagina, penis, mouth, voice—they are yours to use, and if you don’t love your own body, no one else is going to love it for you. The idea that you don’t like parts of your body is built upon these same boxes...which body is better? What skin colour should I be? Am I a man or a woman?
You decide what you are. If you think you’re a woman, you are. If you think you’re a man, you are. What you feel and the body you are in do not need to match. There is nothing wrong with you and you are what you feel inside. That’s what counts.
Love yourself, and love your body.