Statistically men are more culpable than women for failed relationships. Critics would argue it depends on who took the survey and the reasons etc…let us say that we are because we most often lie, cheat, and deceive. Under the premise that men are responsible for most failed relationships it becomes easy for a woman to blame us even though the failed relationship was really her fault. Yes ladies, sometimes the relationship failed because of you and you might be clueless — allow me to enlighten you.

If you walked into a relationship that was not a good situation from the start, then do not blame him when it falls apart. If he is 'breaking up' with his obnoxious girlfriend or baby mama and you started dated him at the 'tail end' of his so called bad relationship then don't blame him if a year later he is still 'breaking up' with her. It is always best to get into a relationship with him when he is completely out of his.

Obviously, if you rushed into a relationship with eyes wide shut before getting to know him or you ignored certain signs then when that relationship fails it's on you not him. When your eyes are wide shut you see only his charm, his wit, his looks, and you get caught up in the few moments you spend with him. If after he beds and wins your heart over the 'real' man begins to emerge and you don't like what you are seeing perhaps you should have waited a tad bit longer before sleeping with him and your eyes should have been wide open instead of wide shut.

Sometimes you are just as guilty of doing or not doing the same things men are often accused of – failing to appreciate your man, being too demanding, overly critical of his ways and actions, taking him for granted, and committing the ego shattering sin of negatively or unfavorably comparing him to your ex. Those are all self explanatory reasons that overtime will drive a man away from you and you end up alone. Every woman ought to know when she has a good man and she should appreciate him but for good measure let me add - good men are consistent with their wonderful treatment of you and remember they don't bring a third party to the table.

If you say to me men should not lie, cheat, and deceive women I wholeheartedly agree with you. However, remember that for some of us if that is the way we are going to get what we want from you then that is what we are going to do to get it. My last statement does not change the fact that you are responsible for taking your time in selecting the man you want, it does not change the fact that a man can only be in a relationship with you unless you agreed to such and if you have a good man it is your responsibility to reciprocate all that he gives and shows you. A relationship takes two, do your part.

Yes, sometimes you are to be blamed for your failed relationship but rather than immerse in self pity or denial, learn from your mistakes and apply those lessons toward your next relationship.